I’ve always wanted to own a business and have a family. When I was younger, I never knew what type of business I would open but I knew I’d go into the corporate world for a couple of years, gain experience, figure out what I liked and didn’t like, and then start a business—everything would fall into place.
Luckily, the first part of that panned out, and although my first business (a local and organic baby-food delivery company) didn’t succeed the way I had hoped it would, it led me to opening Little Lovage Club. I started Lovage a year before giving birth to my own daughter. This was a blessing in disguise, as I personally would’ve never been able to start a business after having a child…but I absolutely applaud those who can!
This is Going to be Easy
When I would tell people I was pregnant, they had the same response I had in my own mind, “Great! The baby can easily come with you to work!” Yes, of course, I would simply bring my baby to work with me. After all, I was surrounded by other moms and instructors who worked with children all day long. What better business to be in?! How lucky was I?
I tried it once. One time only. I remember propping Nora on a Boppy next to me with a little toy and opening my computer to send emails while a class was going on. About two minutes into emailing, Nora needed her diaper changed, and then approximately two minutes after that, she needed to be rocked to sleep. Not more than thirty minutes later, she woke up, and needed to be fed. You get the picture. This just wasn’t going to work.
My master plan of owning a business and having a family seemed much more overwhelming than I had originally anticipated. Luckily, I have a fantastic team that likely knew I was being too ambitious and hard on myself, and they remained so supportive and patient that I was able to figure out what worked for our family.
Figuring it Out
Honestly, it took me over a year to “figure it out.” I loved being a new mom and I loved my business—I just needed two brains and more sleep to do both of them at the same time. I wouldn’t necessarily say that it’s smooth sailing, but I can tell you that I no longer stress when an email comes in and I’m in the middle of rocking my daughter to sleep, and I no longer stay up until ungodly morning hours, sending emails that likely aren’t even coherent. I’ve also accepted the fact that I have to work on weekends, during naps, and often miss grabbing drinks or other social gatherings with friends. These are some of the sacrifices I’ve had to make for both, and I’m okay with it.
Making it Work For You
My biggest advice to any soon-to-be or current mompreneur is that no matter what field you’re in, you can’t do both at the same time. We physically don’t have enough hands or brain cells to go around. What worked for our family is carving out time to do both separately, which in turn made me appreciate each more. I love my time when I can just focus on work (for me, that means working away from my own home), and I absolutely adore coming back to my little one’s hugs afterward—even if it was just for a couple of hours.
No matter how you split it, it’s not an easy ride, but it’s a great one. Here’s to all the mompreneurs out there!